Adventures in living a healthy, juicy life
by Cheryl Ragsdale
The foolish young man in the video below played a high-risk game when he decided he was safe to bully a much larger boy.
Ouch! Something definitely gets broken when an over-sized, man-child picks up the smaller boy and slams him down hard after being taunted.
Since it looks like he did some damage to the younger boy, I doubt that any other kids will tease or taunt him again.
Big kids with heavy hands have to be taught how to deal with weaker people.
Especially when the weaker people set up situations to test themselves against bigger, stronger people.
Teenagers and young people – with hard heads and stubborn streaks – learn by doing. What’s your position on this situation? How would you advise your kids to handle this problem?
My answer, not surprisingly, is to enroll the larger boy into a martial arts program. There, he would learn how to manage his size and his temper. Plus, he would learn how to be confident in the face of being bullied. Defensive body language goes a long way to frightening potential abusers away.
Plus, he would have known how to easily deflect those punches.
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How To Stand Up For Yourself
That video was difficult to watch.
More often than having to face physical bullying, we’re subjected to someone mouthing off in our direction and imposing their “well-intentioned” opinions and world views on us.
When people do things that we don’t agree with or don’t like, it’s difficult for the rest us to mind our own business and let them live their own lives. Carmen Engel’s post (listed below) reminds us to take a deep breath and wait until you truly understand what’s going on before you open your mouth to say something or make a move.
This week’s list of interesting posts covering the topic of “standing up for yourself”, introduces a group of women “pole-dancing for Jesus” and more advice on handling how teenagers behave on facebook.
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cyber
Docs warn about Facebook use and teen depression – Yahoo! News posted at yahoo, saying, “With in-your-face friends’ tallies, status updates and photos of happy-looking people having great times, Facebook pages can make some kids feel even worse if they think they don’t measure up.”
Facebook Standing Up to Bullying posted at Sexy Social Media, saying, “Facebook announced at the Bullying Prevention conference held at the White House recently that they are instituting new tools to help protect the social media sites users from cyberbullying. The company said they are looking to create a ‘culture of respect’ throughout the Facebook community.”
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friends
SarahSiddens presents Creative Every Day: Stand Up To Bullying posted at Christina Katz – Empowering Writers, saying, “I made a few mistakes before I confronted the person who was bullying me. Initially, I tried to appease her instead of standing up to her. She had been kinder to me once upon a time and, for too long, I tried to focus on that instead of how she was making me feel, which was bullied.”
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random
Pole dancing for Jesus; class mixes faith and fitness; Church going women offered free class posted at Lifestyle – NY Daily News, saying, “In a dance studio in the town of Spring, outside of Houston, women are taking on the now-popular fitness trend of stripper aerobics – but instead of moving to a pulsing beat, they’re grinding along to Christian music.
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relationship
Socratez presents How To Communicate With People posted at Socratez Online, saying, “bullies are people with emotional luggage. this article is about how to communicate effectively with people, and will be a valuable read and appliable to every situation.”
David Leonhardt presents The 3 Cs of Leading with Confidence posted at Self-Help Happiness Blog, saying, “How to show leadership and confidence, to bring people along to follow and get things done.”
SIX presents When Your Kid makes you Proud posted at Sixathome!, saying, “Get up, stand up for your rights! A martial arts student,he had to put that to mental not physical use.”
William Hambleton Bishop, MA presents Vengeance and the Ego | Psychotherapy blog: recovery resiliency mindfulness acceptance parenting wellness philosophy trauma theory relationship solutions posted at Thoughts from a Therapist, saying, “this is about why we experience feeling of vengeance and what we can do about it… perhaps it is vengeance which makes the bullied into the bully”
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workplace
Carmen Engel presents What the light breathing exercise can do for you? posted at Meditation for the Soul Blog, saying, “Getting out of any stressful situation quick:)”
Submit your blog article to the next edition of how to stand up for yourself using our carnival submission form. Past posts and future hosts can be found on our blog carnival index page.
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Cheryl Ragsdale practices martial arts for fun and physical fitness at Florian Martial Arts Center. She was recently promoted to Brazilian Jiu Jitsu Blue Belt by Keith Florian and Kenny Florian, both Black Belts. Stand up for yourself and stay young from the inside out. Check out some of my other posts strictly for UFC fans and fighters.
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Hello Six,
I love facebook! It’s hard to remember life before facebook and twitter. We have to take the good with the bad sometimes.
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