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Are people who have the same love language more compatible? I wonder whether that means they’ll intuitively give their partners more love?
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Knowing what ‘language’ allows another person to feel loved is critical!
Another critical point is knowing that you have their attention when you express your love.
When we form habits with others, a lot of kindness and love can go unnoticed (this is one of many ways the ‘spark’ can disappear from long term relationships).
One way to help this, is to make sure you have your lover’s full attention before or while you are showing them your love… one example is to get their attention with a touch… hold heartfelt eye contact with them for a moment, and then say “I love you!” (this can be modified for other methods of showing your love).
It is also powerful to notice what your lover has done for you… even the smallest things. Allow yourself to really step into a place of appeciation for your lover… get their attention… give it a moment for the ‘this is important’ feeling to set in, and then say “I really appreciate it when you…” and fill in the blank with whatever you are showing appreciation for.
These have had wonderful effects in my relationship!
keep smiling,
Ben
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Twitter: thatgirlisfunny
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Wow! Benjamin,that’s kinda hot, buddy. That approach would definitely work for me. Sounds like you’re saying that we should slow down and breathe and be with our partner. That’s beautiful. Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us.
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I love that book. We read it with my wife before we got married. It definitely made an impression, and now I’m convinced that it really comes down to this five.
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Hi Tom,
I agree with you – it really does come down to this five love languages. Thank goodness! It’s hard enough to manage as it is.
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I think the best way to show someone you love them is to be attentive to the little things that warm their heart and surprise them!
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Hi Krizia,
That works for me. Knowing the little things that make a person happy means that you’ve been paying attention.
What an excellent post, Cheryl. People often find it difficult to express their love, so learning what their “love language” is can be very important. We are such different creatures, aren’t we? I suppose much depends on how we were raised. My family was a huggy/kissy family, hello’s, good-bye’s, whatever. My husband’s family is British so when I first entered their world, it a just a tad bit of culture shock. Eventually, both sides gave in and we found our ways to express our love.
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Hi Cherlock,
It really does come down to what we’re used to. I like time and attention. That always works for me. Everyone is so different. It really does make sense to ask or else risk getting it wrong.